We went to the hospital today to discuss what went wrong with IVF #1 and to tell him how pissed off I was that they weren’t clear that we would only get 1 NHS funded cycle. AND that they didn’t give me any frozen egglets.
Before going in, DH and I had a plan. It’s not very glamorous, but it will get us to where we want to be a lot quicker than any other way. Living in the centre of London is NOT purse friendly. We spend over £2500 on rent and bills every month. We don’t have a great deal left to spend or save. So our plan is to move in with his parents. I can hear you all pitying me as I type this next sentence. I’m not actually sure how I’m going to cope. But what I do know is that we are both use to (and happy to) making short term sacrifices to better our future long term.
Moving in with his parents would allow us to save at least £2600 every month. We would only need to pay travel expenses, food and a small amount to the in laws.
If we stay there 18 months that’s at least £46k. That’s our deposit for our very first house (and hopefully our Rainbow Baby). I can’t even begin to tell you how much I despise renting!! If we don’t move in we are talking at least 8 years before we have enough money to buy. I don’t think its a question any more – were moving. As soon as our contract is up on our flat.
This plan is two fold – It was all about not starting another IVF cycle until we had moved out and can fully afford it (as to not add any extra stress). But this would mean not going back to Guys ACU and instead starting all over again in a different city.
The director of the clinic saw us today and he made us feel like he knew us. He was really nice. Although I wanted to shout at him and tell him about all of the flaws with the system and how he should have given us something to freeze.
I went in with my plan and 20 questions and he pretty much answered them in the first 2 mins without me needing to ask a thing. I’m going to add a page summarising IVF 1 along with the questions I had and the responses in case its of interest to any of you. But for now ill just say that we will be going back in a couple of months (once we’ve conjured the money from somewhere) the only difference being a lot more stims with the next cycle. He said he would keep us on the same protocol, that all my blood work was perfect and the only thing that wasn’t great with this cycle was the quality of the blastocysts. So he’s saying that with more stims comes more choice and quality and therefore higher chances of freezing. (I’ll go into more detail on the other page)
He has made me feel positive and that we should give this clinic one final chance. He has also changed my plan dramatically. We were also planning on getting married secretly next year but it looks like that will now be the year after! Yes I already call him DH but that’s because I absolutely hate calling him my boyfriend after 12 years!!! And it wouldn’t be secret secret, we would still invite our immediate families but they wouldn’t know about it until the day before!! I can’t wait to blog about that one.
Anyway, appreciate that was a bit of a ramble on. But my head is all over the place if I’m honest. I’ve changed my mind about “the plan” millions of times and I’m struggling to keep up.
If any of you have any nice successful IVF #2 stories I would be glad to hear them!!!